My family is all about traditions. Christmas must include Kieflies!Â http://www.cookthepart.com/2010/12/12/kieflies-the-only-must-have-christmas-cookie/
Christmas must also include the same ornaments that we have used for 40 years, the same stockings (received upon the birth of the children), the same small repertoire of Christmas Eve dinners, followed by one of the more elegant choices for Christmas Day dinner. And, Christmas must include Gingerbread houses. This year, our first year as grandparents, included our new granddaughter Kaya Marie in the building event. I got to hold her while her mother, Maria, constructed and decorated. We also had the pleasure of hosting friends with their children in the construction zone. Some beautiful masterpieces resulted. Baking cookies or making gingerbread houses with your children are two wonderful ways to experience “team cooking” and learning the joy of spending time together in the kitchen. On my facebook page, I received two comments from friends/relatives who still remembered the gingerbread houses we made with them 40 years ago. Lifetime memories.
Following is the story from one of our guests, Eric Karpinski, who brought his wife and two lovely children to participate in the event.
The Transforming Power of Savoring by Eric Karpinski
Earlier this week, I took Becca and the kids to a gingerbread house making party with my friend Karin Eastham. Karin, a former biotech colleague of mine, has been pursuing her passions by publishing a cookbook around team cooking. The book is awesome and her blog shares a ton of great recipes and ideas about how to throw a fun cooking party or team building activity in the kitchen.As we settled into assembling the houses, I noticed I was feeling off. Iâ€™d had a run-run-run day getting ready for Christmas festivities which had left me feeling a little anxious and cranky. I broughtthat energy with me to Karinâ€™s. Are the kids being polite enough? Did Becca really want to bring the family all the way up here instead of having a quiet afternoon at home? What do these biotechcolleagues REALLY think about my leaving the industry to be a coach? I could feel the negative energy of these questions — the judging and worrying — start to take hold and make me more anxious.
Then I noticed what I was doing. That I was taking what could be an amazing experience and tainting it with gratuitous negativity. Yuck! So I decided it was a great time to turn on my savoring tools. Iconsciously slowed down with a couple deep breaths and became aware of my senses. This helped me notice all the subtle positive things that were happening. How my 9 year-oldâ€™s tongue stuck out a little when she was concentrating on her masterpiece. How my 7 year-old was designing his house to maximize how much candy he could fit on it. How proud I felt as my wife talked about her leadership roles at work. How yummy the peppermint bark tasted. How much fun it was to meet some new and interesting people. Savoring brought me out of my worrying loops and into the wonderfulexperience we were having as a family.
Then I focused on building up the experience in my mind and sharing what I was feeling. I expressed my appreciation of Karin for hosting and doing the baking ahead of time. I shared my own memories ofmaking gingerbread houses as a kid at my auntâ€™s house. I talked about how Piper, the two year old with us, was an perfect stand-in for Cindy Lou Who, with her big blue eyes and brilliant smile. All of this helped increase the joy I was feeling and encouraged the others to share similar stories.
While Iâ€™d arrived grumpy and tired, I left Karinâ€™s house energized and happy. Savoring had helped me not only salvage a bad day, but imprint some great memories that I will hold onto for a long time.
Check out Eric’s advice for how to really “savor” the holidays: